Help! I feel helpless...

Help me! I feel so helpless. I sit here listening to my sister being put down and being called names and she is actually believing these things this person is telling her. I won't call him a man because if he were a man, he wouldn't need to put his drama and his insecurities on someone else. Be it my sister or any one else. 

How do I help someone who won't leave this particular situation? She will, but she goes back. Over and over. I worry about her all the time and I can't be the one to tell her what she should do. 

Love or dependency? I don't know, the lines are blurred. I have a desire to fight her battles and protect her from the drama but I know this is something she must work through. She must see what the answers are for herself. I can't guide her with a gentle push but the ultimate answers are within her. Only she can put an end to the negative thoughts and the dark voices inside. But it doesn't stop me from want to try to help. 

We find the strength to overcome things when we feel we've had enough. She has survived a physically abusive relationship in the past but this one is just as toxic and just as emotionally draining. I always say that physical pain is better than emotional pain bc the bruises will fade and eventually go away but the mental pain and suffering go on and on. 

How do we find ourselves in these types of situations? The quote, 'We accept the love we think we deserve.' Is very telling. It is up to us to acknowledge what we perceive as 'deserved'. We can only accept it if it this way or that way. Easier to believe the negative than it is to believe something good for ourselves. 

Someday there will be resolve. But until then. I will worry and try to help as much I'm allowed....